In the spring of 1980, I drove across the US by myself. It was one of the best things I have ever done. When I got to North Carolina, I visited my aunt and uncle, whom I rarely saw because they lived across the country. My uncle Jack worked security at Research Triangle and was a volunteer at the Red Cross Blood Bank.
He convinced me to give my first blood donation.
If you haven’t watched The Social Dilemma on Netflix yet, I encourage you to spend 90 minutes and watch. Include the older kids. You may need to pause it at times to discuss the point. It’s worthy of a discussion. As a life-long Silicon Valley marketer, it struck a nerve.
I’ve worked in cybersecurity for years. I am the marketing person who turns an engineer’s wild ideas into plain English so ordinary people can understand what they are doing and why they’re doing it. While it can be hopelessly dull, cybersecurity is vital. …
In July 2018, Paige St John released a podcast called Man in the Window. It’s a fantastic podcast that tells the Golden State Killer story, emphasizing the women and the times (the 1970s).
In the final episode, Resurrection, Paige talks about the therapist Phyllis (Victim #1) and Kris Pedretti are seeing, and she speaks briefly about the therapeutic technique. I thought I’d provide more information for those of you interested so you can investigate this kind of treatment for yourself. It’s beneficial for anyone with PTSD or deep trauma.
This method is like EMDR on steroids.
I didn’t realize I…
This is a copy of my written statement. You can watch the whole thing here via the local news’ Facebook page. My part begins at roughly 21 minutes. Inside scoop, I did two things at the beginning, spoke to the judge about lawyers to help me relax and transition. And then, what you may not know, is we caught DeAngelo bitching to his lawyers as court ended on Weds. Apparently he was tired of looking at the “same six spots” to avoid eye contact with us. He was pissed because his peripheral vision kept spotting us! So I had to…
The most shameful thing about the murder of my dad and stepmom, Lyman and Charlene Smith, was being a suspect. I can’t believe it happened. I still can’t believe the police thought I could do something so awful. My mom was my alibi that night, and she failed to remember I was home. When I walked in that night, she was in the bean bag chair watching Soap. She didn’t know I had gone into my room and jumped on the phone with my friend Kathy.
Mom had one job, and she blew it. Yes, I forgave her.
“I did all those things,” Ho said DeAngelo muttered. “I’ve destroyed all their lives, so now I’ve got to pay the price.”
Joseph DeAngelo has pled guilty to 13 counts of first-degree murder and 13 counts of kidnapping. He also admitted guilt in 62 other crimes, including rapes, robbery, and more. These crimes weren’t charged because the statute of limitations protected him from prosecution.¹ Before his plea, special circumstances were attached, which meant the death penalty if guilty.²
I’m on the record as being opposed to the death penalty. As you might think, my opposition has little relevance to what…
You have superpowers at work. There are processes and procedures for everything, and even when you’re innovating, you know how to get that done. The by-product of your experience is a feeling of competence and confidence.
Suddenly, you’re working from home (if you’re lucky), and you see the food-stained faces of young people looking at you for leadership, guidance, and inspiration. There’s no alcohol discount deep enough to help you embrace this task.
But I have good news. Your business skills can set you free!
Start with business objectives.
I live at the intersection of true crime, storytelling, and entertainment. There are still moments when I look up and think, “am I really in the middle of all this insanity?” Of course, the answer is yes, and I’ve done my best to slog my way through.
I’ve been blessed. As a single mom by choice¹, I was able to work from home while I raised my daughter. At first, I put her in private school, what a disaster. Then public school, not too bad. But in our district, fifth grade was known for being horrendous. So, I decided to homeschool that year — while working. It was glorious.
When she went back to public school for junior high, I realized the gift I had been given. I hope it helps you focus on what matters: the glorious moments that are far more important than “keeping up”…
I feel privileged to be among the victims of the Golden State Killer. I didn’t see it coming, I could not have predicted it, but it has absolutely been vital to my getting through the last two years since Joseph DeAngelo’s arrest. Don’t get me wrong, not being in the club would have been okay too, but since I couldn’t prevent the crime, finding myself among amazing women (and some men) has been life-sustaining.
We share struggles that bring us together.
Thanks to a private discussion group, we’re able to speak with one another without judgment. Sometimes it’s an article…